“Every cloud has a silver lining,” or so the saying goes. Well, I’ve got a big, fat storm cloud looming over my personal life right now, and I haven’t found one yet. Mostly I want to cry and drink wine or just pretend this major change isn’t going to happen at all. Maybe listen to some old-school Alanis Morissette and cuddle with my cat while watching Dawson’s Creek (essentially reverting to my ’90s childhood). But I’m a practical person, and I realize these are strange coping mechanisms, not solutions.
Yesterday I turned to my favorite coping mechanism of all, running, to clear my head. I looped along Milwaukee’s downtown lakefront, reminding myself how pretty this city is and how lucky I am in a boatload of ways. The dark, puffy clouds—the real ones and the metaphorical ones—lingered, but the surrounding sky was so bright and so blue that I felt empowered to be less of a pessimist, to stick my head up in the clouds rather than stay below them all of the time.
At the end of my run, I climbed out on some rocks and reflected a bit. There I decided on a plan: Stay busy and stay positive. I’m not going to give myself time to wallow, and I’m not going to let myself spiral into worst-case “what if?” scenarios. Or at least I’m going to try not to.
Step 1: Sign up for a fun race. (Check! I registered for the Rock ‘n Sole half marathon in just four weeks.)
Step 2: Actually talk to people about feelings.
Step 3: Eat some really good, really bad for me food…
YOUR TURN: What helps you push through a tough time in life?